About Me
Integrative Coaching

When I was three years old, my parents began to teach me that my thoughts have a profound effect on the way my life unfolds and the person I would become. I’m sure they worded it differently to my younger self, and I still got the message loud and clear: Aaron, your thoughts create your life.

Around age seven, I was diagnosed with severe scoliosis and placed in a back brace for the most developmental years in a young boy’s life. I felt ashamed, embarrassed and broken, though I had no idea how to say these things. I hid from the world, and eventually from myself, developing chronic social anxiety and a fragile self-image.

The doctors told my parents I would wear the brace until I was old enough to have a metal rod inserted and attached to my spine. My parents told me something different. Knowing the power thought has on our life and our bodies, they told me only that the brace was to help me get better. So I did.

Having my core enclosed in plastic 23 hours a day, came with a cost. Underneath the physical barrier I wore to prevent needing corrective surgery I developed an emotional wall. I felt cut off from others, and feared being close to people or letting anyone get to know me. I doubted that I would ever be “normal” and doubted my self-worth and value as a person.

When the brace was removed I began physical therapy. Finally, I was free to move my body in the world…but I didn’t. The emotional armoring and feeling of being disconnected stayed with me, reinforcing an identity of limited potential. I kept playing small, and I kept hiding.

There came a day when, after having just completed my B.S. in software development (the perfect career for a shy guy), I decided enough was enough. I knew I’d gone through these experiences for a reason, and I knew I was here for something more than myself. I wanted to connect with others who were committed to their own self-exploration and development, and who believed they had something important to contribute to the world.

Working as web developer on my college campus, I sent a message to the entire student body with a call to action. Let’s create a community of extraordinary people, and let’s find out who we really are and what we are capable of.

The response was…crickets. Out of thousands of people, the clarion call went unanswered. Except for one.

She invited me to her office in the back of a nearby bookstore, and then without any superficial pleasantries proceeded to ask me one of the most important questions of my life. “What do you want?” Simple and straight to the point.

It wasn’t so much what she asked me, as what was behind the question. Something that said “This is important. Pay attention.”

So, I said what I really wanted more than anything. “I want to know my life purpose. I want to know why I’m here.”

What she asked me next has been a guiding question in my life ever since. She looked at me, squinted as if discerning something invisible, and asked “Are you willing to do what it takes to get it?”

I didn’t hesitate. Of all the times I’ve let self-doubt stop me from going for something big in my life, here I didn’t falter. My immediate answer “Yes, absolutely.”

She nodded matter of fact, and then introduced me to a body of work called The Way of the Heart™. From that point on I crossed a threshold into what I was really looking for…an enchanted life.

Through inner development, study and incremental changes, the accumulated emotional armoring melted. My chronic anxiety gave way to deeper experiences of love, passion and beauty. My limited sense of self expanded into a new dimension of possibility for my own life and for the world, and I became more alive.

This is my invitation to you now. It’s an invitation to live an extraordinary life. To take up your place in the great turning, and weave your thread into the world tapestry. To live what The Way of the Heart™ calls the magical, mystical, archetypical, alchemical, transformative, all lit up and fully alive hero and heroine’s journey.

We don’t always know where the response to our longing will come from, what form it will take or what it will require of us. What we can do is ask, be present, keep moving and stay the course. I can’t tell you living your reason for being will be easy. I can only promise you it will be worth it.